Everyone Says They’re “Busy.” Funny How the Same People Are Always Available.

“Busy” has become the most socially acceptable lie we tell. Being busy as an excuse sounds responsible. Ambitious. Slightly important.

No one questions it because everyone uses it. But “I’ve just been so busy” is rarely about time.

It’s about priority. Avoidance. Or selective energy conservation.

Somehow, the busiest people still manage to binge entire seasons of shows they claim not to like. They scroll for hours. They answer texts immediately, but only when the message excites them. Miraculous productivity appears right on schedule.

Being Busy as an Excuse Isn’t the Issue

Choice is.

We don’t lack time. We lack honesty about what we want to give it to.

If someone consistently “doesn’t have time” for you, congratulations. You’ve received clarity. That is the message. No decoding required. No follow-up questions. No astrology chart needed.

The comedy starts when we refuse to accept that clarity.

So we invent explanations:

“They’re overwhelmed.”
“They’re going through a lot.”
“They care, they’re just stretched thin.”

Maybe.
Or maybe you’re not a priority, and calling it “busy” feels kinder than saying so out loud.

We do this to ourselves, too.

We say we’re too busy to work out, but not too busy to feel tired.
Too busy to plan, but not too busy to worry.
Too busy to change, but never too busy to complain about staying the same.

That’s not busyness.
That’s misalignment.

Being busy as an excuse doesn’t protect your time. It protects your avoidance.

Real busyness looks boring. It’s scheduled. It’s accounted for. It has edges. People who are truly busy don’t talk about it much. They don’t need to. Their calendar already said no.

Everyone else is just hiding behind the word.

This series isn’t here to shame anyone. Life is heavy. Energy is finite. But pretending time management is the problem, when it’s really decision-making, keeps people stuck longer than necessary.

So here’s the cleaner translation:

If it matters, you’ll make room.
If it doesn’t, you’ll make an excuse.

Both are human.
Only one is honest.

And yes.
That’s us.